I have been rallying lately, cheering myself on, picturing myself climbing mountains, crossing oceans, and so on, in an effort to return to the classroom – which I will do this week, if the snow gods wish it so.
It’s taken quite a bit of putting off and putting off to get here, though. To be at a place where the pony-tailed girl with pom-poms can be heard above the groaning sounds (picture Harry, after getting off the phone with Sally). “I am just going to lay here and moan.” You get it now, I hope.
If you have been reading the last couple of posts, you know I have struggled with some inner chaos this winter break. And it’s taken a lot of quiet coaching, from myself, my husband, and a dear friend, to keep me aiming toward the horizon.
The sun brilliantly broke through the clouds today, after the deluge of snow that got dumped on us yesterday and Friday, and standing under her brilliant rays with snow up past my knees, something lit inside. My internal pilot light.
The inner voice of “I can do this,” sounded so true and strong, after a lot of groaning in recent weeks. Groaning over putting together brand new courses while trying to get a house sold in Georgia and trying to please quite a family tree of folks, within Eric’s and my family, over the holidays.
I gave up hard on the trying to please folks part. I even skipped a couple of “essential” Christmas presents this year, simply because my piggy bank and my inner emotional back-up fund were almost dry (I am sorry to those of you who were affected.) But the more complicated life becomes, the more grown-up pain in the butt things that come up, like a selling a house or paying for a child’s tuition, the more you have gotta say “enough is enough.”
And tonight, I pulled up an old blog entry of mine from a year ago, on this very same topic (at http://thismessyroom13.blogspot.com/). How apropos, you might say. Only, then, I had such vigor in my portrayal of creating boundaries, a lilting, mama-on-the-mountaintop tone. Coming into my newly working mom-ness, I saw clearly a new demand for staking claim to my property.
Now, a year beyond that moment, I am even farther along the “I can’t give a sh#t stage.” It’s true. There’s a bit more callousness about the whole thing now, perhaps. But it’s not in a heartless, Tony-Soprano-kind-of-way. I feel more like a bull fighter, who understands his duty to hold the red cape, and has the gashes and scars to prove it.
I am learning, to be more of a person who loves myself, and who doesn’t take that relationship lightly. My commitment to me and to sustaining myself and my family are sometimes all that can happen, until I have ten seconds again to stand in the sun and soak in her glorious cheering rays once more.